Greetings!
I am so looking forward to meeting you.
You may be feeling nervous, anticipatory, perhaps dreamy and excited for our time together. All of it is welcome.
You will have time at the beginning to share whatever you are feeling and whatever you would like me to hear about your hopes and intentions. I will guide the session based on the information I am sensing from you - both verbally and nonverbally - so the more real you show up, the more I can truly personalize the experience for your growth.
Physical Preparation
Cleanliness & Health.
These sessions center around physical intimacy with close embodied touch. They also center around energetic intimacy, where we practice opening our hearts to each other with emotional vulnerability. In order to meet the needs of our vulnerable selves, it is important to create a space that feels safe, respectful and filled with honor.
Elements of safety include treating any contagions that could spread and being transparent about their presence (i.e. fungus, sores, infections). While it is inevitable that our closeness will impact one another’s bodies - this is a beautiful aspect of wild intimacy - we can do our best to make the physical impact beautiful, calming and restorative.
Materials & Attire.
This is a space to try out new ways of connecting erotically and finding pleasure. Toys and props can be fun and fascinating tools for discovering new sensations and opening yourself to dynamics you may have never accessed before. A fun assignment could be perusing a local sex shop before our session and purchasing something that catches your eye - that strikes your curiosity or a hidden fantasy. It could be something that you’d like to practice using on a lover/partner, or something that you’re interested in receiving and experiencing yourself. This is a place to explore and play!
Come wearing clothing that you feel comfortable in. That’s the most important thing! I do recommend changing out of your work clothes beforehand so the session feels like a specific ritual you are transitioning into. This can help you arrive with a sense of clear intention.
Mutual disrobing will be part of the experience. Nude bodies are a gorgeous part of the intimacy we will be connecting with. There is endless pleasure, surrender and opening in the touch of bare skin. With this in mind, we can make the act of disrobing a ritual on its own. Come wearing clothing you would enjoy the experience of being taken off!
Bodily Needs.
There is not a private toilet in the space. I recommend emptying yourself before your arrival.
Energetic preparation:
Rather than focusing on specific ways of touching and interacting, I like to think about the energetic qualities we’d like to inhabit during our time together. Grounded. Comfortable. Trusting. Present. Attuned. Wise.
These qualities will guide the right actions and physical experiences to take place. Remove the threads of expectation and be open to the perfect forms of relating that will unfold when we embody the states of being that feel most right.
Emotional preparation:
These sessions are intimate. If I have succeeded as an erotic guide, you will come away feeling a sense of deep connection and heart-openness. You may come away from the experience feeling a sense of attachment to me; this is completely normal and understandable. Our animal bodies are drawn to those they feel truly safe with. This is where the important work comes in of transferring that sense of attachment to your own self. You brought this experience upon yourself - not me! And you will bring yourself other beautiful experiences to come. All of the good feelings you may be associating with our connection after the session are a reflection of who you are. Take that reflection with you.
Integration:
I highly recommend that you arrange additional support for yourself to process this experience afterwards. The time we spend together may bring up a lot for you. You may be left reflecting on what kind of intimacy, magic, embodied presence and connection you want more of in your day-to-day life. Working with a more long-term practitioner can help you understand those desires more deeply and help to heal whatever is in the way. This is where a single experience with me can help translate into a more transformed daily life.
The website Psychology Today has keywords of “kink allied” and “sex positive” that you can use to search for therapists who will be more understanding of this type of work. They will hold a safe space for you to digest the experience with me and help you to glean the lessons, to support your larger path of creating a sexually vibrant and fulfilling life.